Something you might not know about me. I don't love commitment. I think that played a HUGE part in why it took me so [SOOOO] long to complete my bachelor's degree. I'm interested in so many different things. It felt like a crime to commit to just one of them for four years, let alone the rest of my life. I told a friend last month that only two commitments have come easily to me in life: marrying Will and having children/being a mother. It's Valentine's Day, so you'll have to bear with me (or just quit reading now) while I write about my husband for one post.
The first thing that attracted me to Will was his wit and sense of humor. His looks and love of adventure followed close behind. I knew that no matter where life took us, it wouldn't be boring. We both love(d) a challenge and adventure. I also knew that he made me feel safe and loved. I never felt like I had to hide the less than beautiful parts of myself from him in order to feel loved.
So- here's to the man who dreams with me, who holds me when the world feels like it's falling apart, and the one who brings calm to my life when my emotions get the best of me. Here's to the man who is my opposite in almost all ways: he's the conservative to my liberal, the collected to my crazy, the objective outsider to my deeply emotional.
Will can tell when I'm struggling to keep it together. He knows when I need time on my own to recharge. He's willing to let me go off on short adventures with my Mom because he knows how special it is to be able to make those memories, and he understands how emotionally draining it can be to take care of four children day in and day out while he's working.
Will makes me laugh when I want to cry. He brings a levity to my life that was sometimes lacking before him. If I could offer my unmarried friends any advice, it would be to marry a person who makes you laugh. Marrying someone who is very smart and capable of challenging you is great, too. Just make sure you don't let them win at Scrabble too often. ;)
I wrote about our struggles with a child in my last post. Tonight, when I post a picture of us on our dinner + movie date, it will only be a tiny snapshot of a day that also included my having to talk one of our children out from under a school desk, hostage negotiator style. We have our fair share of struggles and arguments. Our life sometimes looks "picture perfect" on Facebook, but I can assure you that it's not. What I can tell you is that we love each other and all of our children more than life itself. When we swore before God and man that we would belong to each other for the rest of our lives, we meant it. On the days that we feel less than loving, we choose to love. I wouldn't trade what we have for anything on earth.
Ben Rector's been on heavy rotation at our house lately. As I've said on Facebook, he just seems to get me. My current favorite of his is a song called "When I'm With You." The chorus is "But when I'm with you I'm no longer wandering / And when I'm with you, I swear I can breathe / When I'm with you, I know who I am and who I wanna be." That's how Will makes me feel. I hope that all of my friends feel that either today or some day soon.
Here's to my forever Valentine.
The first thing that attracted me to Will was his wit and sense of humor. His looks and love of adventure followed close behind. I knew that no matter where life took us, it wouldn't be boring. We both love(d) a challenge and adventure. I also knew that he made me feel safe and loved. I never felt like I had to hide the less than beautiful parts of myself from him in order to feel loved.
So- here's to the man who dreams with me, who holds me when the world feels like it's falling apart, and the one who brings calm to my life when my emotions get the best of me. Here's to the man who is my opposite in almost all ways: he's the conservative to my liberal, the collected to my crazy, the objective outsider to my deeply emotional.
Will can tell when I'm struggling to keep it together. He knows when I need time on my own to recharge. He's willing to let me go off on short adventures with my Mom because he knows how special it is to be able to make those memories, and he understands how emotionally draining it can be to take care of four children day in and day out while he's working.
Will makes me laugh when I want to cry. He brings a levity to my life that was sometimes lacking before him. If I could offer my unmarried friends any advice, it would be to marry a person who makes you laugh. Marrying someone who is very smart and capable of challenging you is great, too. Just make sure you don't let them win at Scrabble too often. ;)
I wrote about our struggles with a child in my last post. Tonight, when I post a picture of us on our dinner + movie date, it will only be a tiny snapshot of a day that also included my having to talk one of our children out from under a school desk, hostage negotiator style. We have our fair share of struggles and arguments. Our life sometimes looks "picture perfect" on Facebook, but I can assure you that it's not. What I can tell you is that we love each other and all of our children more than life itself. When we swore before God and man that we would belong to each other for the rest of our lives, we meant it. On the days that we feel less than loving, we choose to love. I wouldn't trade what we have for anything on earth.
Ben Rector's been on heavy rotation at our house lately. As I've said on Facebook, he just seems to get me. My current favorite of his is a song called "When I'm With You." The chorus is "But when I'm with you I'm no longer wandering / And when I'm with you, I swear I can breathe / When I'm with you, I know who I am and who I wanna be." That's how Will makes me feel. I hope that all of my friends feel that either today or some day soon.
Here's to my forever Valentine.
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